Baby Time

Filed under: thoughts — by Lex on April 10th, 2007 @ 11:02 am

Anya makes every individual day take longer. Time spent with a baby can feel long — especially if that baby is a bit fussy!

But, she makes time as a whole go faster.

This is the oxymoron of parenthood. Long days, passing quickly.

Tongue Tie-less Baby Update

Filed under: doctor,family,funny,thoughts — by Lex on March 29th, 2007 @ 10:51 pm

Anya’s surgery on Wednesday went very well. She did great. The procedure took about two minutes, and after some initial crankiness — which was fair, given that we had forced her to wake up early, kept her hungry, and then had her have surgery on top of it all — she was just fine.

Since the surgery, Anya’s been drooling in puddles. Certainly that might be attributable to the single (dissolving) stitch under her tongue, or just the newfound freedom in her mouth. Or it could be early signs of teething. Or, it could simply be a sign of being a 5-month-old baby.

We’ve seen that little tongue of hers (which was once tethered tightly to the inside of her mouth at all times) poke out a few times now, and we’ve also marveled at how she can raise it to the roof of her mouth — something she hadn’t been able to do before.

Oh, one more fun detail. During the procedure, Lauren and I were of course nervous. They had taken our baby away for surgery, after all! I began nervous chatter, talking about anything and everything. Lauren, on the other hand, remained pretty quiet the entire time, waiting in the doorway of our room to watch for our doctor’s return. I resisted then — but not now — the appeal of pointing out that throughout Anya’s procedure, Lauren was mostly tongue-tied.

Nervous Daddy Update

Filed under: doctor,news,thoughts — by Lex on March 27th, 2007 @ 9:52 pm

Anya takes a trip to the hospital tomorrow morning. She will be getting her tongue clipped, which will be a fairly painless procedure, and should help her avoid tongue-induced social awkwardness (“Why can’t you eat an ice cream cone?”) and speech impediments down the line.

It’s a 30-second procedure, but it’s still surgery. She will be put in a little baby hospital gown, and she will be put under anesthesia for about a minute.

There’s no recovery; she’s good to go the second she wakes up. Her parents should be good to go several hours later, when their hearts slow down a bit.

Songs for Children, Lexified

Filed under: funny,thoughts — by Lex on March 12th, 2007 @ 7:34 pm

We listen to a lot of kiddie music. Lauren has her iTunes rocking out the songs much of the day while she’s home with Anya, and my office isn’t too far away, so I hear a lot of the songs all day, too. And of course we play music when I’m done working, when we’re in the car, etc…

Some of the songs that we hear, however, strike me as strange — or even downright evil. I will, in a recurring series on this blog, share an insight into these songs — and into how my brain works — by sharing some of the “missing lyrics” my mind fills in while we listen to some of them:

“Willoughby Wallaby,” by Raffi:

Willoughby wallaby wee, an elephant sat on me
Willoughby wallaby woo, an elephant sat on you
Willoughby wallaby Wustin, an elephant sat on Justin
Willoughby wallaby Wania, an elephant sat on Tania
Willoughby wallaby Wen, an elephant sat on Ken

The Lexified additional lyrics:

Willoughby wallaby Wooneral,
It was a very sad funeral

I’m a lyrical genius.

4 Months Update

Filed under: baby's progress,doctor,thoughts — by Lauren on February 19th, 2007 @ 8:10 pm

Anya had her 4 months appointment at the pediatrician today. She’s a whopping 15 lbs, 12 oz (90th percentile) and 26 inches (97th – ! – percentile). Aside from a pesky rash that just won’t quit (normal for some babies, unfortunately) and a touch of laryngitis (which makes her cries sound so sad and pitiful), she’s big, beautiful, and healthy as can be.

That paragraph had a lot of parenthetical comments.

Some of the things we discussed today were Anya’s sleeping and eating habits. Unlike several of her friends, Anya still sleeps swaddled in her Co-Sleeper in our room, and although she slept from 11-4 last night, she’s not showing signs of being able to sleep through the night. She’s a pro at falling asleep, but not staying asleep. We’re going to work on helping her give up being swaddled first, and we’re using a cold turkey approach. As I am writing this, she is taking her first nap in the era of no swaddling. It took 30+ minutes for her to truly fall asleep. We had at least 15 minutes of crying, at which point I pinned her arms down just so she’d calm down enough to start working on falling asleep. Then we had a long period of falling asleep for 5 seconds, startling herself awake as soon as her arms dropped, waking up to cry, lather-rinse-repeat.

I’m VERY uncomfortable with letting her cry herself to sleep at this age, but that’s basically what I did, though I was there to put the pacifier back in her mouth and be a comforting presence. I feel SO guilty about it. She trusts me to take care of her, and though I know I’m doing something good for her in the long run, it feels like right now I’m letting her down. I’m definitely not ready to let her cry it out on her own, and therefore I’m not sure how we’re going to approach getting her to sleep through the night. I know we have to get her to learn that she doesn’t need to eat when she wakes up, since the doctor says that there’s no physical need for her to eat in the middle of the night – it’s just a comfort for her. We are going to work on helping her give up the extra feedings once she’s mastered sleeping unswaddled. One suggestion the doctor had was for Lex to be the one to comfort her back to sleep instead of me. The advantage of this approach is that Anya won’t be able to smell me/the breastmilk, and the bonus is that I would get to sleep more, though I know if I can hear her cry I won’t sleep. I’ll either have to wear earplugs or leave the country or something.

We plan to transition her out of our room to her crib at around 5 months – we don’t want to move her before then because some research has suggested that keeping the baby in the parents’ room decreases the risk of SIDS, and the highest risk period is between 2 and 4 months. I don’t think she’ll have too much trouble since she takes naps in her crib during the day with no problems, and it may even help her sleep through the night more easily since I won’t be able to hear every peep she makes. I think it will be tough on me when we move her out, though. I love having her so close by; it’s so amazing to have a baby in the first place, and I can’t describe the joy and comfort I get out of hearing her breathe and watching her sleep. She’s only going to be little like this for such a short time, and I don’t want to miss a second of it.

Anya still nurses every 3 hours during the day, which is fine, and now that she’s 4 months old we can think about introducing solids. I’m inclined to wait as long as possible, but Lex wants to start them sooner. Aside from avoiding the stinkier poops that come with solids, there’s some evidence that delaying foods decreases the chance of allergic reactions, and the doctor suggested that with Anya’s tendency to have a rash, waiting until at least 6 months might be good for her. However, Anya is showing a definite interest in people food whenever she watches us eat. I was a little disappointed that we didn’t get a clearer answer about how to proceed once we start (rice cereal vs. veggies, etc.), but I understand – there’s no “right way” to do it.

In other news, Anya’s really got her head under control, and she’s trying to push up on her hands. She’s so close to rolling from her tummy to her back, though right now she ends up spinning herself in a circle from the way she brings her knees up to her chest. She can scoot on her back if you let her push off your hands with her feet. She grabs at anything you dangle in front of her, and if she’s able to grasp it, it goes in the mouth. And, if there’s nothing available to put in her mouth, she’s a pro at getting her hands in there. She coos, blows bubbles, smiles, and laughs. She’s become a real little person, and we love her.

Up For Grabs

Filed under: baby's progress,thoughts — by Lex on January 18th, 2007 @ 12:33 am

Anya Haley has started reaching out for toys in her field of vision.

This is tremendously exciting. You have to be a parent to appreciate that, I think.

(Note to all parents reading this: I hear your “Duh,” no need to say it!)

This, too, shall pass

Filed under: baby's progress,friends,thoughts — by Lauren on January 9th, 2007 @ 9:39 pm

Anya finally used up the last of her size 1 diapers this past week and has now graduated to size 2 (at 11 weeks old!). I realize this is becoming a common theme of this blog, but she remains a BIG baby.

Speaking of moving on to new things, every day Anya amazes me by learning new skills and becoming more of a “person.” Her head control continues to improve (quite a feat, given the size of her head!) and she’s become SO interactive, especially when it comes to smiling.

Fortunately, some of the more trying aspects of parenthood are improving as well. Maybe it’s the sleep deprivation, but I think that new parents – at least me and Lex – find themselves assuming that the difficult parts of taking care of new babies will just always be that way. From the moment Anya was born, she screamed when we changed her diaper. She wailed during baths. Gas made her cry bloody murder. I remember a time during her first few weeks when Lex’s parents were staying with us and during a nighttime diaper change his mom knocked on the door to see if everything was okay, since Anya was voicing her displeasure rather loudly. We responded that we were fine, it was just a diaper change, figuring that’s how diaper changes were going to be. I’m happy to report that it’s been quite some time since gas made Anya notably upset, and she positively enjoys both baths and diaper changes now, but I didn’t realize that I had been going through these phases with the mindset that they would never end until very recently. We had gotten together with our friends Shiri and Dave and their baby Izzy for lunch, and then they came back to our house. Around 5:30, Anya began to fuss and cry, as she has been doing habitually – it is her “witching hour.” Shiri commented that babies ultimately get over this, and I was surprised to find that her comment surprised me. I had just assumed subconsiouly that Anya would always have a tough time in the early evening before she settled down to go to bed. Did I picture her at 30 pulling a Jekyll/Hyde at work? No. I just hadn’t put together that as she matured some things that were difficult previously were becoming so much easier. It’s nice to know that although new challenges will arise, the old ones can be overcome.

How to know when Anya Haley is next going to poop.

Filed under: funny,thoughts,tmi — by Lex on October 28th, 2006 @ 10:00 am

Want to know when Anya’s going to poop next? Change her dirty diaper. Within the next 30 seconds, she’ll poop.

Oh, you can try waiting extra time before you change the first poopy diaper. You can wait 10 more minutes, or an hour. But as soon as you change that diaper, she’ll poop again.

I wrote this song, to the tune of “Meet the Flintstones,” about the situation:

Anya
Anya Haley
She’s the baby sitting in my lap
When we
Change her diaper
That’s when she will take another crap

Why must
She be so predictable?
Does she
Just prefer her diaper full?

Anya
Anya Haley
She does love to move her bowels so
She just did now so
I have to end this song!

One Week Postpartum Update

Filed under: doctor,thoughts,tmi — by Lauren on October 27th, 2006 @ 10:11 am

Today (Thursday) is Anya’s one week birthday. It’s really hard to believe that she’s already been here a whole week!

Everyone says having a baby is the most wonderful feeling in the world, but they’re wrong, because wonderful is not a strong enough word. I cannot believe how much I love this little person – someone who I had never even met a week ago. Sometimes I just stare at her and feel so overwhelmed by happiness that I have to remind myself to breathe. She is beautiful, amazing, awesome, incredible – words cannot describe her enough.

Anya had her first appointment with the pediatrician yesterday, and it went very well. She gained about 2 ounces since coming home from the hospital, and the rash she was born with is almost gone. We’re both getting much better at nursing, and she’s starting to get into a more predictable schedule. Last night she slept for three consecutive hours twice! Her mommy and daddy REALLY hope this was not a one time performance.

Speaking of mommy, I am doing pretty well, physcially. My stomach is still sore, and I have a big poochy stomach that makes me look about 5 months pregnant, but it’s getting smaller every day. I’m down to about 10 lbs over my pre-pregnancy weight already, and you have to factor in (CAUTION, we are entering TMI territory) my newly gargantuan breasts into that weight. It’s too bad it’s late October; I’d look smashing in a bikini, at least from the ribs up.

I had the staples removed from my incision today, and though I was very nervous about it – they actually use a tool called a staple remover! -it turned out not to be a big deal. My mom came to hold my hand while Anya stayed with her Daddy.

Something many women look forward to as a bonus to pregnancy is not having their periods for almost a year. However, no one ever really tells you that you will later pay for this reprieve by having what seems to be a never-ending period once the baby is here. The bleeding can last for weeks (I read on someone else’s site that she bled for 10!) and since you’re not allowed to wear tampons, even with a c-section, you end up developing a diaper rash of your own from all of the pads you wear. I hope this phase of recovery ends sooner rather than later (This CONCLUDES our TMI section for this post).

Something else no one had ever really put into words accurately for me is the thrill of nursing the baby. Yes, it definitely hurts and it can be a very frustrating process in the beginning (it still is for me at times), but wow! My limited skills as a writer make it difficult for me to clearly express how it feels to have your child gaze into your eyes and stroke your side with her tiny hand as you provide the sole nourishment she receives. It makes me feel like for the first time in my life, I am actually doing something that qualifies as important.

One more thing – I am becoming an expert at typing with one hand.

Anya’s birth story should be written and posted by the end of the weekend.

Update

Filed under: delivery/labor,doctor,news,thoughts — by Lex on October 18th, 2006 @ 10:23 pm

Okay.

Our doctor says that you’re big, but healthy. He hopes you’re not as big as the specialists think, and bigger than his own measurements indicate. And he believes that Lauren/Mom could deliver you normally without jeopardizing her health — or yours… If it happens in the next few days.

So we’re letting nature take its course for the next several days. Lauren’s already one centimeter dilated, and that’s promising. If she goes into labor soon, then all signs are we’ll have a natural delivery. But if Monday comes and you’re still in hiding (and who could blame you? Must be comfortable!), then we’ll need to talk about a C-section. (Induction isn’t really on the table; our doctor trusts recent studies that say induction in cases of bigger babies leads to more emergency C-sections than “waiting.”)

We can’t wait to meet you, Baby. As long as you’re healthy, we’ll take whatever circumstances your grand entrance involves.

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